Going out to lunches and happy hours with co-workers regularly

Refusing to follow any sort of budget for themselves, but expecting and forcing you to follow one in order to keep household going

Being too tired to do things with you on weekends

Refusing to plan anything together, but making plans with other people under the “guy time”, “family time”, “work event”, “special event”, “workout time” reasons which somehow always exclude you

Not wanting to be seen in public with you

Acting irritated with everything you say

Disregarding schedules as if they can’t be bothered to remember things or stick to important plans

Making big purchases without discussing with you-like buying a new car

Work events where other spouses are invited, but you aren’t

No empathy: you could be crying on the kitchen floor and they would step over you while talking on the phone, then order your to clean up and make dinner

Judgement looking down on who you are and what you do

I do what I want, when I want attitude and behavior

Weekends become about their sleep, their sickness, their friends and their time is all that matters

Will disappear when you are sick, don’t care, and get angry

Plan holidays without you

Act like it’s their family vs. your family

Turn to their parents for decisions vs. you

Gossip about you and you start feeling more and more uncomfortable (like everyone knows something you don’t)

Ignore your messages and calls yet always on their phone when home

When you do make plans- will just complain, attempt to ruin everything, be unhappy, be ungrateful and checked out

Exclude you from their life as you and your kids are an afterthought

Doesn’t speak with you beyond “how are you” then doesn’t even care what the answer is

Don’t make excuses or give them the benefit of the doubt. Get your money, plan and life in order so you will not be caught off guard with any betrayal.