We can feel so afraid of being alone, starting over, or giving up after time invested in someone, that we continue to stay in a toxic relationship.
We think of the loss, pain, failure, judgment, isolation, loneliness, sadness and the status as single (a.k.a. unwanted).
When struggling within a toxic relationship, the only way forward is by getting out of it. In order to get there, instead of focusing on the loss and pain, shift your focus on what your new chapter could like it.
22 Ways Your Life Can Change-
Waking up and being free to be yourself without the fear of someone else’s mood
Not being judged daily with stream of put downs
Not being called gross for waking up with morning breath
Being able to eat in bed if you feel like without a blow out argument
Time to exercise and focus on your fitness
Better sleep
Freeing up space in your mind vs. spending your time trying to navigate arguments and attacks
Doing your hair and nails because you want to without guilt of being gone for a few hours, or shamed for not having your hair and nails perfectly done at all times
Time to focus on yourself
Going out for your favorite meal or eating cereal for dinner without a fight
Not being trapped as on call cook, cleaner and launder doer for another adult
Going out dancing because you love to dance
A pink room (if you like)
Not spending your free time cleaning up after someone else while being told you aren’t doing anything
Feeling comfortable at home
Not having your bedtime routine and PJ’s picked apart
Getting dressed up just because and feeling great about yourself or relaxing in sweatpants without criticism
Not having your money taken and used with no budgeting or goals in mind
Feeling like a child, parent or therapist to a scolding adult that talks down to you, complains constantly and doesn’t take responsibility for things
Feeling like a failure no matter how much you give, listen or try
Time to focus on your dreams and passions
Energy for your goals
A new chapter in the story of your life that doesn’t revolve around trying to protect yourself from the person that was supposed to be your teammate