Whining
Complaining to the point of mind numbing insanity as you had no idea it was possible to find so many minor things wrong in a day
Getting mad at you for venting about something important to you, after you listened to them complain for hours about things like how they skinned a knee 20 years ago and no one cared
You never venting or sharing any hardship, or challenge because you must always be a happy (but not too happy), robot
Hating your feelings, emotions, thoughts and having to listen to you speak
You shutting the f up and going back to listening to them
You gone and out of their way unless they decide they want you around (if you are willing to respond to a service bell, even better)
Punishing you with silent treatments
Making fake plans
Cancelling last minute, especially for important events you are really looking forward to and excited about
Their amazing ability to make a thousand excuses for disappearing related to their phone issues, car issues, work demands and health issues
Entertaining an inventory of women as back up attention and back up relationship potential- “just in case”
Keeping sex videos and nude pictures of their exes
Porn
Choosing porn over you
Empty, fake promises
Nice stuff other people pay for
Lies
Playing a role to see how much b.s. your naïve self will believe
Sleeping and being lazy AF
Happy to help everyone else except you
Caring about the feelings of a stranger over you
Flirting in front of you
Trashing you behind your back to anyone who will listen, then calling you paranoid if you sense some bad vibes when around these people
Glaring at you
Rolling their eyes at you
Plugging their ears while you speak when they are sick of you trying to talk things out, or if you dare share your hurt feelings
Ignoring you as you speak and walking out of the room
Pretending like you never told them things that you talked about 10x, but remembering something you said 2 years ago, that they throw in your face to shame you and excuse something horrible they did/said
Giving you love cards and proclaiming their love, then a week later treating you like a crackhead, homeless bum, that they are disgusted by and want nothing to do with
Being an ahole while drunk and forgetting you exist
Weed
Having sleeping issues that they blame on you
Headaches used as an excuse to be horrible to you
Making fun of your looks
Saying how they like natural women, but obsess over women with fake surgery everything
Making fun of your weight as they grow a belly and never work out (unless they are in the midst of cheating cycle)
Making fun of your family history
Making fun of your worst memories and most painful moments in life. Paired with treating you with contempt, judgement and disgust to further shame you
Showing no support, empathy or compassion, but demanding it for themselves
Expecting loyalty, but giving none back
Changing what they like based on whoever is around
Obsessing over their hair
Living through their parents demands and feelings, and not making decisions on their own (unless it is a rebellious, temper tantrum like act if mommy and daddy piss them off by not giving into their demand)
Hurting people that love them
Making fun of people that love them
Saying they are animal people, but animals don’t like them that much and they are neglectful towards them
Shopping. Buying things they don’t need, then complaining they have no money, and that they are sick of supporting you and your crazy spending
Sexual deviations- then judging you if you go along with it and follow their lead
Using church and god as a cover for being “good”
Being center of the universe
Raging and namecalling
Cursing while saying cursing makes people dumb and low class
Keeping a social media harem of women “just in case”
Guarding their phones with their life
Calling you crazy, insecure, jealous, controlling if you dare question their shady, disappearing ass
Arguing
Leaving you when you are sick or when your child is sick
Not giving a rat’s ass about your needs, wants, dreams, or goals
Leaving you when you need them most
Starting fights over lord knows what and ruining every single day
Waking up angry
Ruining holidays and important events
Walking in front of you
Trashing the home then complaining how disgusting it is, how gross you are, how gross your home is, and how turned off they are by your gross habits
Getting upset how things aren’t nice enough- your car, your furniture, the curtain rods, the sheets, the lamp, the salad…
Making you feeling like an outsider to their life even if you are married with kids
Making it your family vs. theirs- like a child taunting you on a school playground. Never fully accepting you as their family even if sharing a home, child or married
Maybes- “maybe I will go”, “maybe we will do this”, maybe maybe maybe…depends on my mood little pet
Doing “errands” that take up the whole night or whole day, and you are unable to reach them. Then calling you paranoid, controlling, insecure if you dare ask where they have been, and why are you home raising a kid alone, night after night, weekend after weekend
Cheating- then blaming you for making them cheat by having a miserable home life, relationship, and gross body that forced them to seek support, comfort and love from someone else’s vagina
Rock and roll music
Reading
Pills
Long deep talks where they pretend to like the same things as you, then a month later, making fun of you for believing, thinking or liking these things
Nice shoes
Haircuts
Texting- “I am so sorry, it’s not your fault”, then doing the same thing two weeks later
Texting to see if you will respond, then cancelling plans after asking you out and trying to get you out for weeks, months etc.
Crossing your boundaries, but getting insanely angry if you inadvertently cross theirs (such as trying to hold their hand or cuddle)
Enjoying your empathy, generosity, support, loyalty while giving none back once they snag you. Then accusing you of not being any of those things
These are the narcissists favorite things…
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