And replaced them with porn and attention from other males

If women behaved like men and treated men like they treat us, I don’t think they would last much more than a month without losing their sh*t.  Porn can be great to fill in the gaps when you are single, or as part of growing up in high school years when exploring your sexuality. It can also be great as PART of a healthy sex life with your partner. Unfortunately, for many men in modern society, with porn no longer a Playboy magazine, the use of porn goes way beyond high school exploring, to be used when single, and instead has begun to be a replacement for having a partner (or a healthy sexual relationship with their current partner). Many men have normalized their excessive use of porn on porn sites and social media to such an extent that they have convinced themselves it is harmless fun and no big deal. These men then try to convince their partners to agree with them, and force them to accept it as part of male behavior- I call bullsh*t. It is absolutely an addiction, a compulsion and it can damage, if not destroy the chance at a healthy relationship and sex life with a partner.

 “It’s what men do”, “men need variety”, “it’s just part of jerking off”. Yet somehow, they find themselves looking at porn daily when they could be reaching their goals, living life, enjoying their hobbies, or having sex in real life with a real woman who is ready, able, willing and loves them.  You sir have a problem if you prefer a screen over a real human being and human contact.  Boys in high school are often forced to use images to jerk off before they become socially active, but better believe the real-life thing was all they wanted and were thinking about.  Men say they need variety as an excuse for their behavior when really, it’s lack of effort on their end to connect with their partner and try new things.  The other question is why are you jerking off so much like a high schooler when you have a woman right there who wants to be with you! I want to see men become men and not stay little boys.

Here is how it would go if we reversed roles and behaved like men do:

If women-

Looked at men’s bodies all the time on social media, every day, every week endlessly looking at their nearly naked or naked body parts

Were addicted to scrolling online for new men to look at and find on dating apps

Went to porn sites almost daily

Made excuses to avoid sex in order to use porn instead

Said “too tired” to have sex then masturbated to porn

Preferred masturbation to having sex with their partner

Said we needed variety in our men, but expected men to just understand that they are not enough to satisfy us

Naturally women should want more than one man to satisfy her needs right, more providers, more security, and to ensure she always has someone to help her and talk to her

Expected them to get penis enlargements and reshape their bodies through risky surgeries

Made our pleasure come first

Rejected them and lost interest if they gained 15 pounds

Stopped being attracted to them if they started balding

Denied them sex if they didn’t shave their hair properly because they shouldn’t have any hair on their bodies except where we want it

Flirted with men at work and called it harmless stating – we are “just friends”

Texted with other men behind their back as “just friends”

If they question us, we then call them jealous, insecure, paranoid, overbearing, controlling etc…. for DARING to question our straying eye, disengagement, criticizing and rejection

Think about it-

Do you think men that used to be secure and confident would feel good about themselves?

Would they feel attractive?

Would they feel loved?

Should women just accept it because the internet and social media has taken over the minds and bedrooms of so many men who seem to have lost their moral compass and all self-control?  Should we just be thankful they aren’t physically putting their penis in someone else and should therefore be grateful (like my ex would say)?

What if women said “well, at least I am not going out and sleeping with someone, so why are you mad?”

No, men would probably freak out then use their partners rejection and habits as an excuse to go cheat on them for not paying enough attention to them and for not giving them enough sex…..

Yet for women, if we cheated on our men for how they treated us as result of porn and female friends, we would be the evil no good woman who treated her partner so badly. I am tired of the excuses given to men by both men and women. We as women are just supposed to accept that men should be able to use porn as much as they want and replace porn for their partner as much as they want because they are not actually physically cheating- NO! Enough of the double standards. If you wouldn’t want something done to you, then you shouldn’t do it to your partner. If you don’t want to be rejected and denied sex by your partner, then you don’t do it them. Porn is not a substitute for a real human and real love. There is no emotional intimacy or connection.  It is a form of laziness in life and love that needs to stop. We all need to raise our standards. Women on what you accept from men and men on what you expect from yourself. 

*Not all men are like this and if you aren’t a man that spends all his time endlessly searching for porn women online while ignoring real women in real life, then maybe you can help the men that justify and rationalize this toxic habit*