What I Don’t Want in a Man
What I don’t want is a man who is going flirt behind my back and keep women on the backburner for an ego boost and extra attention, then call me jealous, insecure or crazy. Women “friends” for men are truly rare and in most cases the guy tried to sleep with, wanted to sleep with or did sleep with these “friends”. You can get your emotional and physical needs met through your partner, guy friends, therapist and a pastor, NOT your exes. The answer is not going to other women and discussing your problems, feelings and needs while giving your partner the silent treatment. The answer is not giving time and attention to other women, while you leave your partner home alone to tend to the kids, cooking, and household duties (then wonder why you come home to an angry, tired, frustrated and upset partner).
What I don’t want is a man who is too busy for me, but not too busy for liking other women’s pics on Instagram, texting regularly with exes, or playing on the internet for hours living in a fantasy world
What I don’t want is a man who says he is so into me, yet prefers and spends his time using porn vs. sharing physical and emotional intimacy with me
What I don’t want is a man who is committed to using me, not committed to me, with one foot in the door and one foot out- then wondering why the relationship doesn’t work. Half ass effort equals half ass results…
What I don’t want is a man who can’t take 10 seconds to text me back within a few days, with a simple message like “I am busy, but will get back to you this week” which is possible for every human, but never goes more than 1 hour without his phone in hand
What I don’t want is a man who throws temper tantrums vs. having a discussion and working with me to fix things
What I don’t want is a man who is ready to throw in the towel with every disagreement instead of saying “let’s figure this out together”, realizing love is not perfect or a Disney fairy tale
What I don’t want is a man who expects forgiveness, but gives none himself
What I don’t want is a man who expects understanding, but is judgmental and harsh himself
What I don’t want is a man who runs to his mom or dad for every decision or plan instead of to himself or partner- Leave and Cleave 2:24. Men can’t emotionally or physically attach to their wives if their parents dominate the main role in their lives
What I don’t want is a man who wants support when he is sick, but is disgusted by and goes MIA when I am sick
What I don’t want is a man who complains constantly, yet expects me to be happy all the time
What I don’t want is a man who demands you handle his emotions and childhood baggage, yet can’t handle mine
What I don’t want a man who is critical, yet can’t take any correction in himself
What I don’t want is a man who can’t communicate, just runs away, blocks me out, cuts me out of his life and gives silent treatment
What I want is a man who has got my back, like I got his. Who is consistent and reliable like I am for him. Who appreciates and values me like I value him. Who doesn’t have one foot out the door and one-foot in. Who will proudly show me off on his social media and make it clear he isn’t available. Who will look for the good and positive in me like I do in him. Who will communicate his needs and feelings with me, and not run away or turn to others instead. Who says I got you babe and I say, “I got you too, through thick and thin”.