How To Give Zero Fucks…

And Know You Are A Good Person Doing Your Best

Giving zero fucks is not about being a selfish, fake positive person with no cares for anyone outside of your tight social and family network. The “I only care about what’s in it for me & don’t give a rat’s ass about others needs” mentality that people have in this world is running rampant. We see it in the workplace with co-workers that will go after sales they shouldn’t, and work to make you look bad so they get special attention from your boss. We see it in bosses that don’t care about being true leaders, mentoring their team, and aren’t willing to get in the trenches if needed in times of significant importance.  We see it in friendships where it is about backstabbing, gossip, what’s in it for me mentality, judgement and surface level support. We see it in modern dating where people regular ghost each other as if a 5 second text back is too much, making plans in advance and sticking to them is too much work, and making conversation outside of texts requires too much effort. 

The true meaning of “giving zero fucks” is not letting life change who you are and take you off your purpose. It means not letting the fake friends, the selfish family members, the bashers, the takers, or the bullies ruin your emotional and mental health.  It is about knowing you are being the best version of yourself, so nothing can take you down for long.  First and foremost, before anything significantly disrupts your emotional state and your day- Give yourself 5 minutes to feel those feelings wash over you. Feel these emotions wanting to take over your day and affect your life. Then take use your thoughts to rein in your emotions before they hijack your life.

Here are questions to ask yourself to help stay in a giving zero fucks mindset:

How much will this matter in 5 days, 5 months, or 5 years?

Will this event/situation/occurrence affect my life in a permanent way?

Will this matter when I am old and grey on death’s doorstep?

Am I following a moral compass to be a good person towards others?

Am I being open minded as I go through life (or living in judgement and know it all superiority)?

Am I looking for a solution and opportunity out of this occurrence?

Am I a giver and listener (vs. selfish self-absorbed taker)?

Am I practicing gratitude in my everyday life?

Am I being a good friend and a support to others?

Am I raising my children to believe in themselves, but be humble?

Am I raising my children to be kind, honest and hard working?

Am I raising my children to be independent & not use them for my own selfish purposes (affecting their ability to become healthy adults following their own path)?

Am I committed to finding my purpose and my path in life?

Am I taking steps to work towards my goals?

Am I choosing to treat my body with respect and prioritize my health?

If you can answer yes to these questions, then you are being the best version of yourself and working to live your best life. Don’t let anyone take this from you.

Then, as a favorite author of mine, Wayne Dyer, writes- you must tell yourself “No one is going to ruin this day for me”, and go about your day giving zero fucks.